Self-Care is Self-Love

What does self-love mean to you? Is it confidence? Knowing when to say no, or Knowing your self-worth? Well if you're like me it's been a combination of all of the above. You know what's missing, Self-care. If you are like me, you think of self-care and get a feeling of guilt. You're busy being a mom, student, daughter, friend, girlfriend, and wife. How can you possibly fit time in for yourself? I say all this while writing this blog in between 2 sleeping babies on the couch. It's time we start taking care of ourselves. I'll be the first to admit that even before I had kids I was always too busy to take any amount of time for myself. It got to the point that I actually would have these short periods  of time where I would get completely burnt out and I never understood why. My family would have to pull me aside and tell me I needed to slow down. In my mind I couldn't. If I wasn't doing two hundred and fifty thousand things at once how could I say I was living up to my full potential.

I thought I was never going to be successful if I didn't run myself to the ground. I had so much to learn. Over the last 2 years, I've had 2 beautiful babies a soon to be 2 years old so full of energy and sass, and a 3-month-old who's hot on her heels. Of course, that's not all. I just finished my bachelor's degree in business management now I've started my master's degree with 2 concentrations, my maternity leave is coming to an end at my day job and I'll start working from home, on top of all that running RQF boutique. I sat down to reevaluate what I'm doing to myself. When I started noticing a wrinkle forming on my forehead I had to make a change immediately. Girl, 28 with a wrinkle I almost cried my mom doesn't even have wrinkles. 😭😭

So we will be bringing you self care tips all year long. Every Tuesday I will be bringing you new things I'll be trying to keep myself sane in hopes that it will help you too.

This weeks self-care to do is my personal favorite, retail therapy. I mean amazon should just make me their honorary customer as much as I order from them. I know my FedEx delivery man is probably tired of coming to my house. When people joked about it being like Christmas every day I felt personally attacked. I have a package that's at my door right now and I have no idea what it is. It's probably not even for me.

Over the past week, I started doing something I haven't done in a few months since delivering this baby. I took the time to remind myself I am a beautiful, smart, strong woman that deserves to take time for herself. I did it the best way I know how I did a photo shoot at 11 pm when everyone was sleeping. The new Quarantined Collection that RQFBOUTIQUE has is the most comfortable and sexy collection to date. As you can see in the photos I had way too much fun while jamming to my girl Ariana Grande's "Touch It" on replay. So I named this 2 piece jumpsuit after it.

White 2 piece jumpsuit


red thigh high stiletto boot, white 2 piece jumpsuit "Touch It"


Red thigh high stiletto boots, white 2 piece jumpsuit, model with curly hair

This was like a 3-day shoot. I wore something different each time. On night 2 I wore a few pieces from our Cozy Sweater collection and Honey let me tell you I was ready for anything. I was warm it hid all areas leftover from baby number 2 and showed off the curves the right way. This 3 piece set comes in Blue and Pink and of course, I had to rock it with the exclusive RQF thigh-high platform boots.

Pink 3 piece sweater mini skirt set. Black Thigh-high Platform boots.
Blue 3 piece sweater mini skirt set. Black thigh-high platforms.
Black ribbed sweater  mini dress . Red thigh-high stiletto boots


Night 3, I tried doing some tik tok videos. Now look, I'm by no means a pro. After having two kids in two years I'm what you call "behind". I'm playing catch up with you young folks so don't judge me I'm working on it. Plus my hips are a little stiff still. Mamas coming for you though. The absolute most fun I've had in so long. I guess I'll share the video to show a little fun and some time for yourself goes a long way. Ps don't laugh too hard I'm old. To see the video go find us on tik tok. Ill add the link below. 

I hopes this helps you to know even the women who look like they have it all together lose it sometimes. It's ok to take sometime for yourself.  Be blessed Queens.




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